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Toy Review: The Magic Banana

As a sex and kink awareness educator, one of the best perks of my job is that sex toy and sexual device manufacturing companies ask me to review their products. I was recently asked to check out the Magic Banana, which is being billed as both a kegel exerciser and a sex toy. Since much of my work with clients involves people coping with the effects of ageing, illness and/or disability(ies), I am always excited when I find a product that is meant for multi-tasking. Finances can be tough for anyone to manage so a device that can do double or triple duty is a great find. I am pleased to say that the Magic Banana did not fail on the promises it made. In fact, I think it performed far above my expectations.

Bike lock vs. the Magic Banana

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Banana Cream Pie, Anyone?

Toy Review: The Magic Banana

As a sex and kink awareness educator, one of the best perks of my job is that sex toy and sexual device manufacturing companies ask me to review their products. I was recently asked to check out the Magic Banana, which is being billed as both a kegel exerciser and a sex toy. Since much of my work with clients involves people coping with the effects of ageing, illness and/or disability(ies), I am always excited when I find a product that is meant for multi-tasking. Finances can be tough for anyone to manage so a device that can do double or triple duty is a great find. I am pleased to say that the Magic Banana did not fail on the promises it made. In fact, I think it performed far above my expectations.

Bike lock vs. the Magic Banana

I have to mention that there was a whole slew of jokes flying around our house before the Magic Banana ever made it here. Yup, I was going to be slipping on banana peels à la “Fusilli Jerry” and we were to be on guard for banana cream pies. The hilarity continued when the product arrived and I opened it. “Ummm,  it looks like a bright yellow bicycle lock,” everyone mused. On that point, I have to wholeheartedly agree.

                The Magic Banana arrives with an appealing guide mentioning a variety of suggestions for its use including: helping to decrease menstrual cramps, enhance muscle control, ameliorate sleep and improve orgasm quality. The guide is also visually interesting because it uses pictures of women of differing ages and ethnicities. This means a lot to me because I embrace diversity.

Eco-Friendly & Discreet

                The Magic Banana is powered by you, making it an ecologically-friendly choice. It does not require batteries or electricity. The warranty is probably one of the longest on the market at 10 years, meaning that it won’t end up in landfill as do many cheaper toys.

                For people who seek a non-phallic and/or discreet-looking toy, the Magic Banana delivers. It has the air of a bicycle lock or a sophisticated gourmet kitchen whisk. Since there are no vibrating parts, it’s not going to embarrass at the airport by accidentally turning on in your luggage or scan an embarrassing silhouette. Frankly, if it was left out, I doubt any visitors would guess its purpose. I generally also rate toys on the amount of noise they make. This device is absolutely silent…although you may not be while using it.

What Is It Made Out Of?

I tried to contact Janeson Rayne, the creator of the Magic Banana, to get more information on the materials with which it is manufactured. The webpage is a bit vague, only saying it is made of “100% body-safe, medical-grade components and materials.” I was not able to speak with her directly, which may be my fault because I didn’t give her a lot of time to reply before this had to go to press. Still, I hope she will reply to me here and I can update this post. I believe that all toy manufacturers have a responsibility to tell the public what their product is made out of because many customers are known to have environmental or chemical sensitivities. Also, because I did not get a reply from her, I cannot endorse this product for anal use as is suggested in the guide because I don’t know whether the exterior tubing can be boiled to disinfect it. Similarly, I don’t know whether it is made of a porous material that could retain bacteria. If you are absolutely determined to try it anally, I would suggest applying a condom on it until you know whether it can be disinfected properly and not with just soap and water, as recommended in the product guide. It’s also essential, in my mind, that the creator invents a flared base attachment if it is to be placed in the anus. (Unlike the vagina, toys that don’t have a flared base or ring to grip them can get “lost” in the anus. No one wants their sex toy session to end in a trip to emerg). Similarly, if you haven’t ever explored your anus with a toy, this might not be the easiest one to insert because it is so flexible.

As a kegel exerciser

                Whenever I review a new product, I like to try it a few times because there are a number of different factors that can impact your experience including: fatigue, where one might be in their cycle (if you are a person with a vagina), your mood, etc. Since this product was billed as being multi-functional, I decided to try it first as a kegel exerciser. The creator of the product suggests a water-based lubricant be applied prior to insertion. Only the loop gets inserted. The black handle at the base has an ergonomically-designed spot to rest your thumb. The ends of the “loop” should be squeezed together before inserting. For people living with the effects of arthritis or other medical conditions who have difficulty with pinching motions, good news, as the tubing on this product is quite easily manipulated. The video and guide recommend the product be kept in the “smiling” orientation (see picture), as you may not be able to access some of its benefits if the device is not turned the

right way.The “smiling” orientation

For my first exploration, I used a reclining position, with some pillows behind my back for further support. I watched the link below and pretty much followed their suggested use for the product:

  http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XfjTsY-axfI#t=13

If you are not familiar with kegel exercises or you feel that your pubococcygeus muscles (PC muscles) are not very toned, you might want to start slowly with the amount of times you use the device in a day and build up your repetitions. For the kegel “athletes” out there, you may be able to do more reps right from the beginning. I regularly perform my kegel exercises and I have used a number of devices that purport to be kegel exercisers. Some of them double as sex toys, but in my mind, none of them perform quite as well as the Magic Banana. Personally, after doing several reps, the “Magic” part of the product revealed itself to me. I noticed that I was starting to feel aroused by the sensation of fullness against my vaginal walls. This was similar to the sensation one gets when using a metal toy (such as those found in the nJoy line) or a glass dildo but without the feeling of weightiness. This makes this item very practical for people who fatigue easily or are not able to hold/move a heavier toy. Having felt that I had exercised enough, I decided to go on to the reward part….

As a device to allow self-exploration

A piece of homework I frequently recommend to clients is self-exploration and masturbation. We age. Some of us bear children. We get in accidents. Women’s bodies change cyclically during ovulation, menstruation, pregnancy and throughout peri- to post-menopause. (Men’s bodies change cyclically as well). Some of my clients claim that because they are in committed relationships, they feel that they should not masturbate or touch themselves outside of the intimacy they experience with their partner. If you want to be a more connected lover, never stop exploring your own sexual self. How can you convey to another individual what you want sexually if you don’t experiment with your own needs? The beauty of the Magic Banana is that this device allows you to explore all the nooks and crannies of your vagina or anus. The video states that it might feel particularly enjoyable in the outer third section of the vaginal canal. Personally, I was quite attracted by the sensations I felt near my cervix (toward the back of the vaginal canal) and around my g-spot. Everyone senses things differently. The Magic Banana allows you to explore which sensations feel right for you.

During my course of exploration, I tried varying the speed and depth at which I inserted the Magic Banana. I also tried it in a number of different positions. I found that a semi-reclining position, with pillows behind me was easiest, although a doggie style position allowed for more clitoral stimulation as the tubing was drawn in and out. The tubing is flexible. If you have trouble with mobility or grasping, you may want to insert it first in a semi-seated or reclining position before going on to other positions.Since this device has no wiring, it would also make for great fun in the bath or shower. Immersing it in warm or cool water would also provide some sensory variety.

As a sex toy

This is where we get to the fun part. In the course of exercising and becoming more knowledgeable regarding the state of my body on that day, I had definitely become extraordinarily aware that I was feeling absolutely aroused. My clitoris felt erect because the tubing has been rubbing against it as I inserted it. I arrived at my first small orgasm pretty quickly. (For any of you who have read my other articles about female anatomy, the clitoris is not just a wee nub of flesh. It has crura (legs or “claws”) that are buried beneath the skin on either side of the labia.)) I began to feel that as the Magic Banana was drawn in and out of me that my g-spot was being lassoed on each pass. This is not what I had expected. Previously for g-spot stimulation, I have sought out a rigid toy, having discovered that the flexible ones generally didn’t do much for me. This circumstance was very different. My g-spot felt as engorged as it does when much more time had been spent coaxing it. For people who do not have great endurance during self-stimulation, this would definitely be a benefit. The g-spot orgasm I experienced with the Magic Banana was pretty earth-shattering. It had a nice slow build but it definitely went out with a bang. I will say this next part with a proviso. Not everyone squirts. Female ejaculation is something that in recent years, porn flicks have promoted as something that every woman can do if she only tries hard enough. Frankly, this is bull but I’ll discuss that some other day. What I will tell you is that when I was using this product, I was able to achieve female ejaculation and it was spectacular. (Another proviso, once you have experienced female ejaculation, it doesn’t mean that you can do it every time you want to. It’s one of those fickle body things that I haven’t found a way to control and I’ve been working at it since long before porn popularized it. ) I suspect this was the kind of toe-curling, full-body experience they mention in the guide. I was ready to declare this product a winner after achieving both clitoral and g-spot orgasms but to be a really good reviewer you have to be ultra-thorough, right? So, my next step was researching…..

Potential for Fusion (or Blended Orgasms)

After a couple of minutes of deep breathing and centering myself, I was ready to go back in and try it in combination with some other toys in my tickle trunk. As I mentioned previously, the Magic Banana doesn’t have any vibrating parts to it. It is self-propelled. As a woman in peri-menopause, it is not always possible for me to arrive at orgasm without the help of something that buzzes, so I had prepared a number of gadgets, in varying strengths (more specifically a simple bullet vibe, a Wahl coil and a Hitachi Magic Wand), just in case I couldn’t arrive at orgasm without a little help. I inserted the Magic Banana again, did a few squeezes and felt my g-spot warming again. As the tubing was drawn in and out, it glanced the sides of my clitoris each time. This sensation was quite lovely. I added a dollop of water-based lube to a small bullet vibrator which I stroked along my labia, clitoris and vaginal opening. With my other hand, I gently pulled on the Magic Banana’s ergonomically-designed thumb rest. The Magic Banana provides a fantastic sensation of fullness. I did not have to complete many strokes before I unexpectedly arrived at orgasm again. I rested for another couple of minutes and decided to pair it with the strength of the Wahl coil, an electric vibrator. This time I aimed for a faster penetrative motion using the Magic Banana. I didn’t make it up to “warp speed” (the second speed on the Wahl) before I had another cataclysmic orgasm. I had planned on trying the Hitachi Magic Wand but I was just about done energy-wise. The Magic Banana allowed me multiple orgasms in one session and I can see how it allows for truly sublime fusion (or blended) orgasm in several body areas.

While I have not tried these combinations yet, I think this would pair nicely with a flared-base butt plug, nipple clamps (vibrating or not) and/or your favourite clitoral stimulation toy.

  Partnered Use

Me: “Honey! Oh, Honey! I need your help with a work thing. The guide the Magic Banana came with says <<it can be a great tool to enhance partner sex – especially when used with oral stimulation>>”. This was a fun product to try together. We faced one another while the product was being inserted, with my partner kneeling as I reclined with legs apart (and pillows behind me). There was a little bit of trouble with the initial insertion until my partner realized that the tips of the loop needed to be pinched together. Once the product was inside of me, my partner began oral stimulation. We added in gentle tugging of the Magic Banana in short, fast bursts while I undulated my hips. As I became more aroused, we used slower, deeper penetration with the device, to allow more g-spot stimulation. We found that placing a pillow underneath my buttocks allowed my partner’s hand more range of motion and easier access for oral sex. If it takes you longer to warm up to oral stimulation, rolling a towel up and placing it under your partner’s chin may help them to not cramp up. Occasionally changing positions prevents fatigue for both too.

Many women cannot arrive at orgasm via penetration alone. That is a pretty normal thing to have happen. You could also add in a vibrating sex toy applied clitorally if you felt you needed more power. My partner enjoyed using the toy on me too. Some people have commented that their partners feel intimidated by monstrous phallic-looking toys. The shape of the magic Banana should not cause any undue anxiety.

Overall, I would definitely give the Magic Banana a very high rating for personal satisfaction. For me, it delivered on every promise it made. I will have no problems recommending this device to clients to use as a multi-purpose, economical and eco-friendly toy. Nice work, Janeson Rayne. Ten bananas out of ten!

Book Review: The Ultimate Guide to Prostate Pleasure

The Ultimate Guide to Prostate Pleasure by Charlie Glickman, PhD and Aislinn Emirzian, Sex Educator

As a sex and kink awareness educator, teaching clients about anal pleasure has always been one of my favourite topics. So, I relished the idea of reading Charlie Glickman, PhD and Aislinn Emirzian, Sex Educator’s book The Ultimate Guide to Prostate Pleasure (published by Cleis Press).
From the very introduction, I was impressed with their very honest approach to the topic and how they felt they learned more after they started writing the book and requesting other people’s opinions.
Their “frequently asked questions” section felt familiar to me. It contained many of the same questions I receive when I give anal/prostate workshops. It covered all the basic queries a beginner might pose addressing questions for solo and partnered play. There is good linking back to topics previously discussed throughout the book. This doesn’t feel repetitive either. There are certain topics that must be repeated when you are new to this kind of play. The range of experience various people have felt is also well described and not sugar-coated. It’s not likely that every session will be magical and they make you feel that that’s okay. My favourite lines from the book about this were: “Instead of trying to make your play conform to your expectations, release the impulse to control and let each moment be what it is,” and “…sometimes it’s easier to get what we want when we let go of reaching for it.” This type of sentiment is good advice for all aspects of life but also useful when applied to any type of sexual activity.
This guide is very inclusive in nature. It offers information for the receiver and for their partner. Sections of the book also cover topics not usually included in mainstream sex guides on the topic such as: prostate play in transgendered women and people who are experiencing prostate health issues, including cancer.
At some points in the book, I felt that I was having a conversation with an older, more experienced friend or sibling who just knew more about a particular sex topic than I did. There are enough medical facts here to describe and explain why you might want to engage in or avoid certain behaviours but the guide doesn’t come across as bookish. I love that they describe techniques in terms of activities we are already familiar with such as “applying as much pressure as you would check the ripeness of a piece of fruit” or asking you to use a motion as “if to spread jam on toast”. This kind of language makes the tone of the book accessible to anyone. You feel like you already know how to do certain motions. You just need to apply them to a prostate. There are also loads of very practical lists of do’s and don’ts regarding preparing beforehand such as: how to shave, what kind of lube to buy and how to breathe during the act.
I was very impressed by the sections for technique about masturbation, arousal, perineum play and actual penetration. They were well-described and easy to follow for the beginner. They got into very detailed areas such as how finger length will affect technique for digital manipulation as well as offering numerous ways to massage a prostate. The illustrations for this were simple but effective at demonstrating technique.
I like that they address the emotional factors that may impact this type of play, as that is something that many of my clients have mentioned to me. They suggest alternative ways of viewing male anal penetration that decrease the stigma often associated with this type of play.
Certain types of sex play need more communication. Anal penetration with fingers, a fist, a penis, sex toy or via a strap-on device all need feedback if they are going to be done successfully. One of the concerns that have come up at my own workshops for beginners has been how to give your partner something if they don’t know what to ask for. Their “eye doctor strategy” mentioned on page 137 is a great solution.
Their chapter on sex toys for prostate play offers common sense advice about the pros and cons of various toys and exact instructions on how to make use of them. Every sex educator has heard a story about sex toys that got ahem “lost”. They address this very issue and also provide other valuable advice for troubleshooting any other medical problems that could potentially occur with this type of play.
I would feel confident recommending this book to anyone interested in exploring prostate and anal pleasure from an absolute beginner to an intermediate level player. Even if you have taken a course on this topic previously, The Ultimate Guide to Prostate Pleasure serves as a fantastic reminder for all the tidbits of information consumed in the course of a class.

Sexapalooza 2012: Shameless Self-Promotion

PRESS RELEASE

Local Sex-lebrity Performing at Sexapalooza Ottawa 2012

 Karen Kalinowski works as a pleasure coach, sex and kink awareness educator.

Karen has appeared on radio discussing sex and the effects of living with a physical or emotional challenge (Sex City, CIUT 89.5 FM,) and regarding sex and aging (Flirty Fifty Nifty Seniors Show, Blog Talk Radio).  She regularly presents her seminars to various health-oriented agencies, during trade shows (Sexapalooza) and to educational institutions.  She previously ran a sex advice column which has been transposed into a blog.

Karen enjoys presenting to small and large groups alike. She is aware that people learn information in different ways.  As a consequence, she orients her classes to both the visual and hands-on learner with demonstrations performed on live models, cyberskin or silicone vagina and/or penis models. She also uses Powerpoint slides which detail useful strategies and techniques to try, often delivered in a humorous manner.

 SEXAPALOOZA SHOWTIMES:

Friday, February 10-  Location: Wicked Wanda’s Dungeon Workshop

8:00 – Golly G: A G-Spot Primer

8:30 – Sex Toys for Boys & Girls

9:00 – Kink/BDSM 101: For Absolute Beginners

Saturday, February 11-

2:00- Golly G: A G-Spot Primer (Sexapalooza main workshop area)

4:00- Erogenous Zones for Men & Women (Dungeon workshop)

4:30- Kink/BDSM 101: For Absolute Beginners (Dungeon workshop)

6:30- Communication Skills for Better Sex (Dungeon workshop)

7:00- Pain-fee Kink: Sensory Play (Dungeon workshop)

7:30- Sex Toys for Boys & Girls (Dungeon workshop)

Sunday, February 12-

1:00- Kink/BDSM 101: For Absolute Beginners (Dungeon workshop)

1:30- Communication Skills for Better Sex (Dungeon workshop)

2:00- Golly G: A G-Spot Primer (Dungeon workshop)

Karen will also be available before and after seminars to answer all your sex and kink-related questions. More info required? Contact: kandorinc@xplornet.ca

Body-mapping Basics

 

Body-mapping is a useful tool for re-discovering your body and its needs. It involves an exploration of your body while nude.  The trickiest part is probably finding the time to be alone and uninterrupted to get naked by yourself.

 

Use a blank sheet of paper to draw a quick outline of your body parts. Make sure this diagram shows both the back and front side of your body. Find a warm, relaxing place to sit or recline and begin touching the entire surface of your body. Vary the strokes, light to firm, from head to toe in a non-sexual way. Note what felt good, if any parts were sore or tender and particularly those areas that may have surprised you by how they felt.

 

Repeat this exercise again while allowing genital contact. Once again, make an inventory of what feels good and what doesn’t (ie aches, pains, little sensation, etc.) Note whether you preferred a soft, feathery touch or a more firm pressure. 

 

 This exercise can be used solo to enhance masturbation sessions and develop awareness of your own body. Self-exploration exercises like this one also make it easier for you to communicate to a partner what you enjoy the most and least. By adding numbers to your diagram, such as 1-10, you could provide a sexual roadmap for your partner about the sequence in which you would like to be touched. Specific types of touching could be noted on your diagram too. An example would be: 1) run your fingers gently through my hair 2) stroke and nibble my earlobes, avoiding the inside of my ears 3) caress my cheeks;nuzzle with your nose 4) kiss my lips;use the tip of your tongue 5) rub my back and shoulders with firm pressure.

 

Body-mapping should be performed on a fairly regular basis given that our body changes all the time.  Similarly,  the needs of a partner can change too. This simple exercise can keep your relationship fresh. Try it!

A Bodymap Allows Self-Exploration and Communication

Internal Validation: Tell Yourself You’re Wonderful

Build self-esteem by relying on internal validation

External validation occurs when a person relies on others to affirm their self-worth. As a society, we are measured by outside standards such as the grading system in school, performance appraisals at work and media images telling us what their version of the ideal person is. In relationships, this can sometimes translate into a constant need for approval. Do a self-inventory. Do you rely on someone else to make you feel better?

 

Military Sexual Trauma- re-post from Facebook sex educator page- November 11, 2011

A Culture of Silence Pervades Military Sexual Trauma

Approximately 23-33% of female soldiers have experienced military sexual trauma(MST). This condition can develop into Post Traumatic Stress Disorder which puts people at greater risk for anxiety disorders, major depression and substance abuse. Male soldiers are not without risk, experiencing MST at rates just slightly below female staff. Men may be more vulnerable to the effects as they tend to feel more shame which prevents them from seeking assistance.

Clitoris: Do the Walk

About 70% of women can not achieve orgasm without some form of external stimulation of the clitoris. The clitoris is not just the little nub of flesh that for the most part stays hidden beneath its hood but also has crura (or legs) that flank the labia (lips). It has been estimated that most clit’s surface area are about the same size as a flaccid male penis. Foreplay including manual, oral or sex toy stimulation of the labia (and the area surrounding the labia) and  direct stimulation of the clitoris significantly increase a woman’s chance of arriving at orgasm. A common mistake of partners who wish to please a woman is to focus solely on the clitoris. By touching areas around the clitoris, you build sexual tension and are less likely to cause her to become numb. Remember too, that while you are playing with her clitoris, you can be tweaking a nipple, stroking her perineum or massaging her belly.

the clitoris can't walk of its own accord but it does have legs

Prostate Health Basics -re-post from Facebook Sex Educator profile page

November is Movember, moustache-growing month. Gentlemen, you can keep your prostate healthy by eating a well-balanced diet and exercising. Zinc is essential for all men who are sexually active. With each ejaculation, your entire RDA of this mineral is spent. Natural sources for zinc include: pumpkin seeds, egg yolks, oysters, mushrooms, lima beans, meat, poultry, whole grains, legumes, sunflower seeds, pecans, seafood and fish. The mineral, zinc, is found in many of these foods. If you decide to take a supplement of zinc, keep your dose under 100mg daily as higher amounts could actually decrease its immune system-enhancing properties. the most bio-available (have the ability to cross the blood-brain barrier) forms of zinc are zinc citrate, gluconate and piccolinate.

Brad Pitt and George Clooney Support Movember

The Sex Lady Speaks: New Sex Information and Advice Blog

For a virgin blog, the queen of all “virgins”, Madonna.

This is the inaugural sex education and information blog for TheSexLady. The blog name, TheSexLady, is a moniker I have picked up over the years. People often cannot remember my real name, Karen Kalinowski, but they certainly don’t forget what I talk about. They have stopped me everywhere, including the produce aisle, calling out, “Hey, you’re the SexLady, aren’t you? I have a question,” much to the chagrin (horror?) of people standing around me. I tried to put the name to bed but still, it is what many people address me by and I have come to love it. I specialize in adult sex education, which is a bit different from the stuff they probably taught most of you in school. For those of you who don’t know me personally, I am a sex educator, pleasure coach and erotic writer.   I talk to people about improving their sexual communication skills, techniques they can employ to have a better sex life and well, pretty much everything there is to discuss when it comes to sex and sexuality.

In my blogging class, the professor told us that we should list all of our credentials, appearances and awards. For privacy’s sake, I cannot reveal who my clients are. In the “About” section of this blog, though, there is the typical brag page that publishers always want. Similarly, if you would like to know about the workshops I’ll be teaching this year, you can read about them there. If you are an organization, store owner or group who would like to have me come and discuss a particular topic, let’s talk.

For several years, I ran a sex advice column. I loved all the people I encountered on that site and the challenge of answering questions about virtually every topic you could possibly imagine. I listened to stories of heartbreak about gender identity and trauma from sexual abuse. I rejoiced with my audience as they made sexual breakthroughs when trying a new activity. I giggled when my readers told me about their funniest moments in their sex life. I felt, though, that in writing that column that there were lapses. I come from a social justice perspective where I believe that every person should be treated equally. I wasn’t able to adequately discuss those matters in my advice column. I would like this blog to be able to examine the politics surrounding current sexual issues.

I also have a bit of an environmental bent. What does sex have to do with the environment? Plenty and I promise to discuss greener sex toys, homemade recipes for a more delicious sex life and many more areas surrounding environmentalism.

When I do individual counselling with clients, I try to examine their life situation from a holistic viewpoint. We look at their diet, exercise, lifestyle issues, what type of sexual interests they have and where they feel they need to grow or improve. I won’t be able to be as specific for each of you, my readers, but I would like to give you a taste of the many ways you can remedy your concerns.

Sex is a really big topic to cover. People have already started telling me about some of the topics they would like me to discuss. I will definitely use those suggestions and am looking forward to interacting with you to discover what else you would like to have me cover. Here is a shopping list of some of my favourite workshops I give (by alphabetical order): 1) anal sex 2) aphrodisiacs and other sexy foods 3) BDSM for beginners 4) BDSM on a budget 5) better sexual communication  6) cunnilingus 7) fantasy 8) fellatio 9) fetish 10) fingering/fisting/manual stimulation (handjobs) 11) impact of hormones on sex at every age 12) infertility 13) kink awareness 14) kinky crafting 15) living with the effects of an illness or disability and sex (assistive devices, sex toys, positions, etc.) 16) natural remedies for various medical and sexual conditions 17) PMS/pregnancy/peri- to post-menopause 18) self-esteem (body issues, gender, etc.) 19) sensual massage 20) sex and aging 21) sexual contracts 22) sex toys for everyone 23) STIs and safer sex.  There are so many more areas of interest to sex that I plan on mentioning too.

I encourage you to leave comments and questions here. Since sex is a very private topic for many of you, I would like to offer the option to talk with you directly via e-mail. Since I have counselling clients in real time, as well as workshops, and a life with my family, I won’t always be able to get back to you immediately. For those of you who are a wee bit shy, you can send your concerns to my private e-mail: kandorinc@xplornet.ca

I hope to be publishing this blog at least once a week, perhaps more frequently when timely issues need to be put under the spotlight. Please forgive me as I work through the technical kinks of being a blogger. I can’t wait to get to know all of you.