The Sex Lady Speaks: New Sex Information and Advice Blog

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This is the inaugural sex education and information blog for TheSexLady. The blog name, TheSexLady, is a moniker I have picked up over the years. People often cannot remember my real name, Karen Kalinowski, but they certainly don’t forget what I talk about. They have stopped me everywhere, including the produce aisle, calling out, “Hey, you’re the SexLady, aren’t you? I have a question,” much to the chagrin (horror?) of people standing around me. I tried to put the name to bed but still, it is what many people address me by and I have come to love it. I specialize in adult sex education, which is a bit different from the stuff they probably taught most of you in school. For those of you who don’t know me personally, I am a sex educator, pleasure coach and erotic writer.   I talk to people about improving their sexual communication skills, techniques they can employ to have a better sex life and well, pretty much everything there is to discuss when it comes to sex and sexuality.

In my blogging class, the professor told us that we should list all of our credentials, appearances and awards. For privacy’s sake, I cannot reveal who my clients are. In the “About” section of this blog, though, there is the typical brag page that publishers always want. Similarly, if you would like to know about the workshops I’ll be teaching this year, you can read about them there. If you are an organization, store owner or group who would like to have me come and discuss a particular topic, let’s talk.

For several years, I ran a sex advice column. I loved all the people I encountered on that site and the challenge of answering questions about virtually every topic you could possibly imagine. I listened to stories of heartbreak about gender identity and trauma from sexual abuse. I rejoiced with my audience as they made sexual breakthroughs when trying a new activity. I giggled when my readers told me about their funniest moments in their sex life. I felt, though, that in writing that column that there were lapses. I come from a social justice perspective where I believe that every person should be treated equally. I wasn’t able to adequately discuss those matters in my advice column. I would like this blog to be able to examine the politics surrounding current sexual issues.

I also have a bit of an environmental bent. What does sex have to do with the environment? Plenty and I promise to discuss greener sex toys, homemade recipes for a more delicious sex life and many more areas surrounding environmentalism.

When I do individual counselling with clients, I try to examine their life situation from a holistic viewpoint. We look at their diet, exercise, lifestyle issues, what type of sexual interests they have and where they feel they need to grow or improve. I won’t be able to be as specific for each of you, my readers, but I would like to give you a taste of the many ways you can remedy your concerns.

Sex is a really big topic to cover. People have already started telling me about some of the topics they would like me to discuss. I will definitely use those suggestions and am looking forward to interacting with you to discover what else you would like to have me cover. Here is a shopping list of some of my favourite workshops I give (by alphabetical order): 1) anal sex 2) aphrodisiacs and other sexy foods 3) BDSM for beginners 4) BDSM on a budget 5) better sexual communication  6) cunnilingus 7) fantasy 8) fellatio 9) fetish 10) fingering/fisting/manual stimulation (handjobs) 11) impact of hormones on sex at every age 12) infertility 13) kink awareness 14) kinky crafting 15) living with the effects of an illness or disability and sex (assistive devices, sex toys, positions, etc.) 16) natural remedies for various medical and sexual conditions 17) PMS/pregnancy/peri- to post-menopause 18) self-esteem (body issues, gender, etc.) 19) sensual massage 20) sex and aging 21) sexual contracts 22) sex toys for everyone 23) STIs and safer sex.  There are so many more areas of interest to sex that I plan on mentioning too.

I encourage you to leave comments and questions here. Since sex is a very private topic for many of you, I would like to offer the option to talk with you directly via e-mail. Since I have counselling clients in real time, as well as workshops, and a life with my family, I won’t always be able to get back to you immediately. For those of you who are a wee bit shy, you can send your concerns to my private e-mail: kandorinc@xplornet.ca

I hope to be publishing this blog at least once a week, perhaps more frequently when timely issues need to be put under the spotlight. Please forgive me as I work through the technical kinks of being a blogger. I can’t wait to get to know all of you.