Sexapalooza 2012: Shameless Self-Promotion

PRESS RELEASE

Local Sex-lebrity Performing at Sexapalooza Ottawa 2012

 Karen Kalinowski works as a pleasure coach, sex and kink awareness educator.

Karen has appeared on radio discussing sex and the effects of living with a physical or emotional challenge (Sex City, CIUT 89.5 FM,) and regarding sex and aging (Flirty Fifty Nifty Seniors Show, Blog Talk Radio).  She regularly presents her seminars to various health-oriented agencies, during trade shows (Sexapalooza) and to educational institutions.  She previously ran a sex advice column which has been transposed into a blog.

Karen enjoys presenting to small and large groups alike. She is aware that people learn information in different ways.  As a consequence, she orients her classes to both the visual and hands-on learner with demonstrations performed on live models, cyberskin or silicone vagina and/or penis models. She also uses Powerpoint slides which detail useful strategies and techniques to try, often delivered in a humorous manner.

 SEXAPALOOZA SHOWTIMES:

Friday, February 10-  Location: Wicked Wanda’s Dungeon Workshop

8:00 – Golly G: A G-Spot Primer

8:30 – Sex Toys for Boys & Girls

9:00 – Kink/BDSM 101: For Absolute Beginners

Saturday, February 11-

2:00- Golly G: A G-Spot Primer (Sexapalooza main workshop area)

4:00- Erogenous Zones for Men & Women (Dungeon workshop)

4:30- Kink/BDSM 101: For Absolute Beginners (Dungeon workshop)

6:30- Communication Skills for Better Sex (Dungeon workshop)

7:00- Pain-fee Kink: Sensory Play (Dungeon workshop)

7:30- Sex Toys for Boys & Girls (Dungeon workshop)

Sunday, February 12-

1:00- Kink/BDSM 101: For Absolute Beginners (Dungeon workshop)

1:30- Communication Skills for Better Sex (Dungeon workshop)

2:00- Golly G: A G-Spot Primer (Dungeon workshop)

Karen will also be available before and after seminars to answer all your sex and kink-related questions. More info required? Contact: kandorinc@xplornet.ca

Body-mapping Basics

 

Body-mapping is a useful tool for re-discovering your body and its needs. It involves an exploration of your body while nude.  The trickiest part is probably finding the time to be alone and uninterrupted to get naked by yourself.

 

Use a blank sheet of paper to draw a quick outline of your body parts. Make sure this diagram shows both the back and front side of your body. Find a warm, relaxing place to sit or recline and begin touching the entire surface of your body. Vary the strokes, light to firm, from head to toe in a non-sexual way. Note what felt good, if any parts were sore or tender and particularly those areas that may have surprised you by how they felt.

 

Repeat this exercise again while allowing genital contact. Once again, make an inventory of what feels good and what doesn’t (ie aches, pains, little sensation, etc.) Note whether you preferred a soft, feathery touch or a more firm pressure. 

 

 This exercise can be used solo to enhance masturbation sessions and develop awareness of your own body. Self-exploration exercises like this one also make it easier for you to communicate to a partner what you enjoy the most and least. By adding numbers to your diagram, such as 1-10, you could provide a sexual roadmap for your partner about the sequence in which you would like to be touched. Specific types of touching could be noted on your diagram too. An example would be: 1) run your fingers gently through my hair 2) stroke and nibble my earlobes, avoiding the inside of my ears 3) caress my cheeks;nuzzle with your nose 4) kiss my lips;use the tip of your tongue 5) rub my back and shoulders with firm pressure.

 

Body-mapping should be performed on a fairly regular basis given that our body changes all the time.  Similarly,  the needs of a partner can change too. This simple exercise can keep your relationship fresh. Try it!

A Bodymap Allows Self-Exploration and Communication

Internal Validation: Tell Yourself You’re Wonderful

Build self-esteem by relying on internal validation

External validation occurs when a person relies on others to affirm their self-worth. As a society, we are measured by outside standards such as the grading system in school, performance appraisals at work and media images telling us what their version of the ideal person is. In relationships, this can sometimes translate into a constant need for approval. Do a self-inventory. Do you rely on someone else to make you feel better?

 

Military Sexual Trauma- re-post from Facebook sex educator page- November 11, 2011

A Culture of Silence Pervades Military Sexual Trauma

Approximately 23-33% of female soldiers have experienced military sexual trauma(MST). This condition can develop into Post Traumatic Stress Disorder which puts people at greater risk for anxiety disorders, major depression and substance abuse. Male soldiers are not without risk, experiencing MST at rates just slightly below female staff. Men may be more vulnerable to the effects as they tend to feel more shame which prevents them from seeking assistance.

Clitoris: Do the Walk

About 70% of women can not achieve orgasm without some form of external stimulation of the clitoris. The clitoris is not just the little nub of flesh that for the most part stays hidden beneath its hood but also has crura (or legs) that flank the labia (lips). It has been estimated that most clit’s surface area are about the same size as a flaccid male penis. Foreplay including manual, oral or sex toy stimulation of the labia (and the area surrounding the labia) and  direct stimulation of the clitoris significantly increase a woman’s chance of arriving at orgasm. A common mistake of partners who wish to please a woman is to focus solely on the clitoris. By touching areas around the clitoris, you build sexual tension and are less likely to cause her to become numb. Remember too, that while you are playing with her clitoris, you can be tweaking a nipple, stroking her perineum or massaging her belly.

the clitoris can't walk of its own accord but it does have legs

Prostate Health Basics -re-post from Facebook Sex Educator profile page

November is Movember, moustache-growing month. Gentlemen, you can keep your prostate healthy by eating a well-balanced diet and exercising. Zinc is essential for all men who are sexually active. With each ejaculation, your entire RDA of this mineral is spent. Natural sources for zinc include: pumpkin seeds, egg yolks, oysters, mushrooms, lima beans, meat, poultry, whole grains, legumes, sunflower seeds, pecans, seafood and fish. The mineral, zinc, is found in many of these foods. If you decide to take a supplement of zinc, keep your dose under 100mg daily as higher amounts could actually decrease its immune system-enhancing properties. the most bio-available (have the ability to cross the blood-brain barrier) forms of zinc are zinc citrate, gluconate and piccolinate.

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